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Testimonials

What Clients Say after a discovery call

Toby brings a rare mix of deep empathy and genuine understanding that immediately put me at ease. You can tell he’s been through it himself — there’s no judgment, just a calm, steady presence and a willingness to really listen. If you're looking for someone who truly gets it and can walk alongside you in total confidence, I can wholeheartedly recommend Toby.

EA

Lausanne, Switzerland, 2025

Jag var nervös innan samtalet, men Toby fick mig snabbt att känna mig bekväm. Han lyssnar och försöker inte pressa fram någon ”one-size-fits-all”-lösning. Det kändes som att prata med en pålitlig vän som verkligen förstår. Om du ens funderar lite på att göra en förändring, kan jag varmt rekommendera att boka ett introduktionssamtal.

KS

KS - Stockholm, Sweden, 2025

Ce qui m’a marqué, c’est la discrétion totale et le professionnalisme. Toby crée un espace où l’on peut s’exprimer librement, sans crainte d’être jugée. J’étais hésitante à faire le premier pas, mais après un seul appel, j’ai su que j’étais entre de bonnes mains.

PS

Paris, France, 2025

J’ai pensé à faire des changements pendant longtemps, mais je ne savais pas par où commencer. Avoir un appel d’introduction avec Toby m’a aidé à clarifier mes idées et m’a donné le sentiment d’avoir des options. Son approche est calme, rassurante, et totalement sans pression. J’ai terminé notre appel en me sentant plus léger·ère et plus en contrôle. Maintenant, c’est à moi de décider de faire ce changement.

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MF

GLAND,Switzerland, 2025

We setup a call together after work and I didn't know what to expect. I know I need to change my habits and I thought I knew how, but I quickly realised it wasn't enough to go it alone. Toby had an empathetic understanding of my problems, and we could quickly relate to one another; he has gone through similar challenges in life. I have learned a lot of techniques from Toby in one session and plan to proceed with his services to help me on my journey and decision to create a healthy, and sober new life

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NE

Bristol, UK, 2025

How I Can Help

Every journey to sobriety is unique, and so is my approach to coaching. I tailor each session to your personal situation, goals, and challenges, ensuring that the support you receive is relevant, practical, and empowering.

Introductory Session

Our first session is a chance to explore where you are in your journey and determine if coaching is the right fit for you. We’ll discuss your goals, potential roadblocks, and how we can work together to create a plan that feels both realistic and achievable. There’s no pressure—just an open conversation to see if this is the right step for you.

Sober Coaching

Sober coaching is a supportive and structured process designed to help you break free from alcohol, set meaningful goals, and build strategies for lasting change. This is your journey—I’m here to guide, challenge, and support you along the way. My role isn’t to dictate your path but to help you become curious, shift perspectives, and uncover the solutions that already exist within you. We all have an inner guru—our own wisdom and intuition. My job is to help you tap into yours, build confidence in your choices, and create a lifestyle that supports your clarity, freedom, self-trust, and self-love.

Recovery Coaching

Sobriety isn’t the finish line—it’s the beginning of a new way of living. Recovery coaching is for those who have already quit drinking but want to ensure their sobriety is strong, sustainable, and fulfilling.

These sessions focus on:

Defining what long-term recovery looks like for you

Overcoming challenges and avoiding relapse

Building confidence in social situations

Creating a lifestyle that supports your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

The real work starts after you stop drinking, and I’ll be here to help you navigate the ups and downs, so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.

Who Do I Help

My Mission

I empower executive professionals and working parents to break free from the grip of alcohol and step into a healthier, more fulfilling life. I understand that while you may appear to have everything under control, alcohol has become a silent barrier—keeping you stuck in patterns that no longer serve you.

Freedom from alcohol isn’t about deprivation—it’s about unlocking your full potential and reclaiming the life you deserve. I am here to walk this journey with you, every step of the way.

Ask yourself…

Would my life be better—physically, mentally, and emotionally—without alcohol? If the answer is yes, what’s stopping me from making a change?

If you’ve ever…

• Woken up in the middle of the night, regretting how much you drank.

• Find yourself setting limits on your drinking, only to break them—waking up the next morning feeling rough, trying to remember parts of the night, and feeling shameful of how much you drank.

• Tried to stop but found yourself slipping back into old habits.

• Given up alcohol but still feel out of balance, unwell, or disconnected.,

• Found yourself mentally calculating you can “get away with” another drink without anyone noticing.

• Planned your day or evening around when and where you can have a drink.

• Told yourself yourself you “deserve it” after a long, stressful meeting, or big success.

• Used alcohol to switch off your brain after being “on” all day for work.

• Justified heavy drinking because it was with clients, colleagues, or at business events.

• Woken up at 3 a.m. with a racing hear, mind replaying conversations you can’t fully remember.

• Poured a drink at home when no was watching, even if you’d promised you wouldn’t.

• Noticed your patience, mood, or decision-making slipping after drinking – but brushed it off.

• Hidden how much you actually drink to your partner, friends, or colleagues.

• Realised you’re functioning, but not firing at your true potential and alcohol may be the problem.

…I encourage you to contact me for a free discovery call. The alcohol elevator drops down faster than you think. Let’s not get there.

Meet Your Coach

Here to help
Toby Ernberg
about ME

I am a Sober Coach

If you’re questioning your relationship with alcohol but don’t resonate with traditional recovery programs, you’re not alone. As a sober coach, I provide personalised, judgment-free support to help high-functioning professionals and individuals regain control, break free from destructive habits, and create a healthier, more fulfilling life.

I understand the internal conflict—the cycle of wanting change, making promises to cut back, and fearing what life might look like without alcohol. That’s why my coaching is practical, holistic, and tailored; grounded in lived experience and designed to meet you where you are.

Together, we’ll:

Identify triggers and patterns that keep you stuck

Develop strategies to navigate social situations and cravings

Rebuild self trust and confidence through action

Create sustainable habits for long term success

Sobriety isn’t about giving anything up, it’s all about everything you will gain…: it’s about reclaiming your clarity, energy, and freedom. You don’t have to do this alone. If you’re ready to explore a different way, let’s start the conversation.

What is My Approach

Everyone is different

I tailor coaching to individual needs, but these are the initial steps we could follow together.

1

Building Trust & Creating a Safe Space

At the heart of my coaching approach is the foundation of a strong and trusting relationship. Creating a safe, judgment-free, confidential environment allows you to openly share your experiences and challenges without fear. This trust is essential for meaningful progress and lasting change.

2

Setting Clear Goals

Together, we will define specific, achievable recovery goals—your why. Gaining clarity on your desired outcomes provides a structured roadmap for your journey, making the process more manageable and focused. By setting clear objectives, we ensure that each step forward is intentional and aligned with your personal vision of sobriety. This is your journey.

3

Developing a Personalised Sober Toolkit

A key part of our work together will be to creating a personalised sober toolkit—filled with coping strategies, support resources, and healthy habits that fit your lifestyle. This tailored plan empowers you to take proactive steps in maintaining sobriety and navigating triggers with confidence. By equipping you with practical, actionable tools, we’ll build a sustainable path through life’s challenges—one that supports your growth, resilience, and long-term success.

4

Providing Ongoing, Adaptive Support

Ongoing support is key to maintaining momentum. Each session will be tailored to your progress and evolving needs—whether you’re preparing for a social or professional event, refining your strategies, or simply needing a boost of confidence. Our work together will stay flexible and responsive, meeting you where you are or online. You won’t be navigating this journey alone—I’ll be by your side, offering steady guidance and support every step of the way.

How To Reach Your Goals

By cultivating a positive mindset, making healthy choices, and getting excited about the future you’re creating

Reach your goals with help from a coach.

A sober coach offers personalised support and accountability to help you set meaningful goals and build sustainable, healthy habits. Whether you’re navigating day-to-day challenges or aiming for long-term wellness, coaching provides practical strategies for maintaining balance while staying alcohol-free. By fostering a positive mindset and encouraging empowered choices, a sober coach helps you stay aligned with your values—and excited about the future you’re creating.

Find the peace of mind and clarity that you are seeking.

You don’t have to carry this alone. Working with a sober coach means having a confidential, caring space to share your story, your struggles, and your hopes for something better. Together, we’ll gently uncover the root causes of your relationship with alcohol and build personalised tools—like coping strategies and mindfulness practices—to support your emotional well-being.

As you reconnect with yourself, you might be surprised by how positively life begins to unfold—your relationships deepen, your self-confidence grows, and you start to experience a sense of freedom and fulfilment that extends far beyond sobriety.